How unfortunate. And yes, polite of you. I don't think I would let them know why if it was me -- unless you really want them to reach out to you now. I'm not one for organized religion anyway, unless its visiting my mom's church (she's the pastor).
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That really sucks. Too bad you don't live in the NYC area, b/c that was what impressed me about my church right off -- the welcoming atmosphere. The first day I attended, just over a year ago, I went alone, b/c Jeff thought the UU church was a cult, and a group of older ladies all but dragged me down for coffee hour after the service. I don't think I would have gone back a 2nd time if it hadn't been for them. They don't even remember me now, and it hardly matters, but they sure knew how to spot a first-timer and make her feel welcome. Keep looking. You'll find the right church.
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